My Lesson

I met this man, who brought me happiness. He did. I truely love him. After last nite, I realized it was over. I couldn't deal with it. Our relationship wasn't healthy. We didn't trust each other. It stemmed from our past. I say that is true of me, but I really can't speak for him.

I felt a few months ago, after our fight, that maybe he wasn't the one I was meant to be with, but I didn't want to give up without giving us a chance. But... I learned again... that my gut instinct is the one I should go with. He came into my life to teach me a lesson. A lesson about my nosiness.

I let him into my life, he had access to all my accounts.. my life.. my phone calls... everything. I had access to nothing. I don't even know his address. I bought him cards... and wrote them out, and couldn't send them.. because I didn't have anywhere to send them too.

At first it was cute & funny... and then.. I felt like he had something to hide.

Last week, I found a house... in Colorado Springs, that was mortgaged in his name and a woman's as well. I ranted to his voicemail about this... one nite the other day, when I couldn't stand it anymore. I never got a response. About anything. I'll just assume, after the call I just received its true.

He said... "oh you broke up with me..." I said.. " did I?" and he's like, "you locked me out of your accounts, you told me you couldn't handle it anymore...." and I was like " I can't" and he said.. "fine, you changed ur passwords, I am changing mine... " and he said something else.. and hung up. It all happened so quickly. I dialed back his number, and he basically treated me like it was all my fault. I know its not, and I will not accept the blame... although I'll feel it for some time. He accused me of seeing someone else, and spending time with other people... (which I was never seeing anyone else, I was faithful to him.. although.. I was tempted not to be faithful... but i was spending time with others...) why should I not spend time with my friends, when he can't make any time for me? Why should I seclude myself? Why should I feel guilty about having a life, when he has one, he never shared with me? I shouldn't. Then before the call ended.. he told me to never call or email him again.. and said.. " don't make me get a restraining order on you" I was like wtf? and that was after he said something about me not calling him for the last two days... Well my calls have got less and less in the past month, because I felt like it was a waste of time to call him... because he never called me back...

I am so hurt. I love how because I'm the one with the diagnosed mental problem... that it seems to be all my fault. Well its not. Its not normal for a guy to not give his gf his cell phone number or his address.. unless he has something to hide.

This whole fight started last nite.. when he called to scream at me.. for giving my friend Travis his "personal information". Travis is a friend of mine, for a few years... he was trying to console me when he knew I was having trouble with my relationship. He likes me but respects my relationship, and my faithfulness to the man I was dating... So, he like many others thought that my bf was lying to me. He said... "forward me the headers from the email he sent you." So I took the last email... and took all the words out.. and forwarded him... so Travis had the IP address and the email address. My so called boyfriend... called me from work to flip out about it. He can spy on me, and read my email, and my phone bills, but can't take the time to call me and tell me he loves me. Thats what pissed me off. I couldn't handle it after all the nites i was put off..

All I wanted was his help with makeing some important decisions that would effect our future... but I knew.. when he wouldn't take the time.. he couldn't be serious...

But... I thought I was the one with problems....

I love him... but I'll say it again... love is never enough.

I appreciate all that we had. The closeness. The kisses. He truely made me feel special, and believe in myself. How he could finish my sentences, before i even started them.. and vice versa...

Right now, I have no idea what he's feeling, but he was way out of line. I just wish I could understand, but I know... I will have to accept that I never will.