Love & Lust Junkies in Relationships.

Love & Lust Junkies in Relationships.
Love and Chemistry
Pat McChristie

Love and Being in Love: Lust junkies have many loves and lovers in a lifetime. They are addicted to the chemical high of lust.
Romantic love or lust can last a few weeks or even a few years, but, unfailingly, the bubble will burst and lust or romantic love will begin to wane...

Some couples stay in the relationship or marriage, but others leave the relationship and go back into the singles' world in search of chemistry. lovers, and romantic love. Many psychologists call these love junkies or lust junkies.

Anthropologist Helen Fisher finds relationships are starting to end at the fourth year in societies all over the world. She opines that romance and romantic love function to lengthen the male-female partnership long enough for procreation.

Barbara De Angeles, Ph.D., in her book Are You the One for Me, calls these people love-at-first-lust junkies. She writes these people are often addicted to the instant high of infatuation. They want those firecrackers popping and rockets going off.

De Angeles says, "You experience raw, sexual chemistry between you and another person, and assign more emotion to the bond than there actually is. You can't stop thinking about the other person, not because you are in love with them, but because you are turned on by them.

"But the high of lust-at-first-sight is often followed by the low of disappointment you feel when the relationship doesn't turn out the way you hoped it would. So many people get rid of the mate/lover but then keep the problem, right into that next person who produces the right chemistry."

Some people do become veritable love junkies. They need the excitement of chemistry to feel happy about and intoxicated by life. Once this initial rush of chemicals wanes, the relationship crumbles and they are off again, seeking another chemical high from infatuation.

The lust junkies also have one other problem. They crave the intoxication of chemistry and infatuation. When the body builds up a tolerance to these chemicals, it takes more and more chemistry to bring that special feeling of love.

Many adults go through life in a series of six-month to three or four year relationships. Some do this even if they are married. In fact, if these love junkies stay married, they are quite likely to seek affairs to fuel their chemical highs.